- Self-sabotaging people are aware of what needs to be done, but do something else.
- They stop learning and listening - they believe they already know what they need to know.
- They stop asking for counsel or use the wrong advisors [we should use only wise and trusted advisors].
- They spend their energy in menial things and events; they don’t pick their fights – they sweat the small stuff and everything is a conflict to the death.
- They’re forever looking at the past: what mistakes they made, what [they think] people did to them, how they were wronged.
- They are always looking at the future [but do nothing to achieve it] – they wish upon every star but never lift a finger to make things happen.
- They make excuses for their behavior and don’t take responsibility – my parents treated me bad, my [condition] excuses my [behavior].
- They believe the labels they apply to themselves – I am [neurotic, unlucky, ugly, fat] so I can’t change [something]
- They always believe things are too difficult and find the negative in everything.
Monday, June 7, 2010
What to do with self-sabotaging people – Part 1
I was just in a discussion with one of my Linkedin groups as to how to handle people who are self-sabotaging. First things first, how do you spot a self-sabotaging person? Here are a few of their characteristics: