What to do with self-sabotaging people – part 2

What to do with self-sabotaging people? How do you coach/deal with them? In my previous post (here) I explained that self-sabotaging people are basically stuck and not moving forward. They seem incapable of doing what needs to be done.  Can you coach/manage someone like this? The answer is yes, if they are willing and, specially, if you are willing to put the effort required to unstuck them.

One thing first, if you can avoid the relationship altogether is a better course of action. Wasting time on somebody who is doing their earnest to destroy their lives is a bad bet.  Remember that these people are masters are sucking up time and energy, so be wary of their games. But in the case that you won’t or can’t avoid it, then this are the actions that may help you:

• Determine what you want to accomplish: are you there to save a career, save a buddy or just make someone more productive?  Your efforts should focus on that and not on solving everything.
• Recognize that you cannot change anything yourself, they need to do their own work.
• Be very clear about the boundaries in the relationship – define what you will do, what you won’t do and what you expect them to do, and even how to do it – did I mentioned that this requires a lot of time?
• Set clear goals, but focus on the short term. Giving them too many long term goals will cause them to procrastinate. Don’t give them that chance – keep it short and sweet.
• Set meeting guidelines. Your door should be open but be wary of too many unscheduled meetings or emergencies. Keep track of the time you are spending.
• Make sure they are doing their work and making their own choices. It is too easy to fall into the “I-can-solve-anything” mode. You are there to guide and mentor, not do their job.

One last thing, even if you do all of the above perfectly, there is a big chance that they will not respond or, despite what they say, perform what was agreed. So, be ready to drop them if that happens.

Stopping the launch of weak products

A weak Product Management function can result in features that are not introduced in response to customer needs but in response to internal wish lists (that may be out of touch with the market), or in cost structures that are not being revised strategically to enhance profit margins (like outsourcing vs. internal development). To change a Product Management function takes making an assessment, mapping out where we are today, where we want to go be and what are the best practices in what we need.

After the initial assessment and once you understand where you are and where you want to be. Choosing the right framework will be one key to your success. There are several frameworks about what Product Management should be, for example: the PDMA model has one, author Steven Haines documents another, and author Marty Cagan shows us yet another one. All frameworks list a set of skills and functions that every organization should have. But just using any of these frameworks will not work for a company, as with everything in life, each situation is unique and your framework should be tailored to your needs. Best product management practices will come from a consultant (you are hiring one, right?), current literature and studies on the matter.

Another big factor is if your company wants to change its culture – for example, is the organization willing to let a Product Manager team define and control the product? Or are they convinced that it is a function of the Marketing department? Whatever the answer to the culture question, it will mean a lot of changes to marketing, product development, service desk, platform development, etc. If your company is not willing to change the culture, the best way is to look for a framework that will reinforce current weaknesses and strengthen what is being done today.

Going to the moon

Today we are celebrating the 40th anniversary of the US moon walk. This gives us a great opportunity to think about setting challenging goals for our companies, departments and endeavors. If we do not challenge ourselves, the status quo and everyone around us, we will find ourselves in the same spot year after year.

“We can challenge ourselves to do great things again by joining forces, cooperatively, with patience and perseverance, by setting our objectives high and helping other people to join us in the quest for expansion of our thinking, of our capabilities.” – Buzz Aldrin

Note: For those of you who don't know, Buzz Aldrin is the astronaut that piloted the lunar module of NASA’s Apollo 11 who took him and Neil Armstrong to the moon.